Cheers to the dads that don't get to see their kids today.
An ice cream shop I visited.
Happy Father's Day to all the Dada's out there, big ones and little ones!
Probably my favourite shot of Archer, taken on film that expired 20 years ago
My high school’s all night grad party had a raffle with all 360 graduating students. I got lucky…
Spring as its best 🌸
In the celebration of the new season, I made this little oil painting.
My 3 month old pups first holiday and the day my partner said yes to marrying me 🏳️🌈
Lobster dinner for my dad’s 94th birthday and Father’s Day!
A'Tuin is real
Women left out a bowl of ice. This little fella fell asleep on it while cooling off.
This piece will be leaving me today to be put in the Explorers Against Extinction charity auction.
My first Father's Day is today! So smitten with him.
On the road out of Reykjavik.
Geena Davis and Susan Sarandon at the 30th anniversary screening of 'Thelma & Louise' this weekend
I am building a little western town. Just finished my first building.
Not a burst shot
The City Museum in St Louis is one of the craziest places I've ever seen
It ain't much, but I'm proud.
Spring in Netherlands.
Just me and 40,000 vaccinated fans rocking out to the Foo Fighters at Madison Square Garden
Pink robin 💜
My Dad doesn’t really get excited for presents . For father day I got him a new gaming chair.
River Troll in Sweden
My grandfather's garden
Saw this on my morning walk today.
Priorities in check
american gothic and their likenesses
This picture made me smile.
Finished this mural for my friend’s bar in Montreal!
Colorized photo of an 11 year old miner, 1908
I called 'keeps' on my favorite person
This amazing blue chameleon with brilliant colors
Bamboo Tunnel - Kyoto, Japan
This is Oliver. He's 4 today. Still doesn't have a job or or pay bills, but I still love him.
Long Exposure of a Bottle Rocket
There is a mushroom growing from the carpet of a hotel I am staying at.
"Empty" - The winner of this year's Hampton Beach Sand Sculpting Classic
Apple's new "Privacy" ad creates dystopian effect by appearing to record me in my apartment
Gandalf checks his emails (behind the scenes in the set of the Hobbit) as a renaissance painting
My wife let my son pick my fathers day ard this year.
My recent painting: "The Coast of Alexandria" by Joseph Feely
This Father's day, I'm teaching my son the art of the lathe.
Finally pushed past my fear of hights and led my first ever climb yesterday!
I got a new Beagle Puppy!
A foggy morning at Cheaha State Park, AL
Japan is the winner
I bodypainted myself into Violet Venom to help raise money for Stand Up 2 Cancer UK!
The city at your feet. Quito, Ecuador
Peak summer in the mountains of New Mexico. Photo is as the iPhone took it.
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Cheers to the dads that don't get to see their kids today.
Thanks. My son is on an aircraft carrier on the other side of earth. I miss him.
I remember being deployed for Christmas and that was tough. We aren't religious, but Christmas is all about family for us. My husband did a great job getting our son around to be fed by multiple family members, lol
Cheers to the men that got a shitty message from their ex early in the day. That may have been me.
Yep. She hasn't let me see the kiddo in almost a year but texted me to wish me a happy father's day. So thoughtful of her right?
You don’t have any visiting rights??
Not after the judge found out...
Keep strong bro. I went through some fucked up shit with my ex and my daughter. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
R/divorceddads great place to commiserate and see you are not alone and get good tips on how to make the best of it. Cheers!!!
I'm in the same boat with you my friend.
You got a message! Lucky.
And cheers to the kids who no longer get to see their dads today
It was 20 years for me on Saturday, it never gets easier.
Bout 6 months for me. Still sucks
Two months tomorrow
What if I voluntarily don’t want to see him
14 years. I love you Dad.
Hope you’re good man if it’s something your dealing with. I can imagine it is quite hard
Also, my son's third birthday. Also, lost my job this week. I'll be fine. Or not. This Magic 8 ball is on the fritz.
My magic 8 ball says you'll be alright.
Thanks. I still have to get mine looked at by Greg at Spencers.
Greg’s the best in the biz.
Shame he's hopelessly addicted to magic 8 ball liquid.
Had such a bright future, but the sweet mystic liquor’s siren song was too much for him. He seems happy though so it’s best to let him live his life on his terms.
I dont see why we don't just shake and ask Greg at this point.. I mean he's gotta be like 82% 8ball liquid by now...
Greg would’ve been sober by now if all you people would just stop bringing him your damn 8 balls!!
8 balls have ruined many people other than Greg!
Ask Harvey Dent for his coin and if it land on heads everything will be alright
Hang in there and keep on movin’!!
This too shall pass.
You will be fine. You will have better days. I believe in you my brother in humanity. There’s a lot of “stay strong my man” sentiments going around here and I love it. Men standing beside each other is a great thing. But remember, it’s ok to feel the emotions you are feeling right now. Don’t shove them down, don’t ignore them. Its easy and fun to turn them into self-depreciating comedy to cope but don’t do that at the cost of feeling. I’ll never imagine to understand what you’re going through, but my DMs are open if you want to talk about it.
And you’re at the bar…
Wouldn’t you be?
I don’t drink because it killed my father. I’d probably be job hunting or not missing my kids birthday.
Good men deal with this every day.
Even if you aren’t, that’s still rough. I hope it gets better.
yeah yeah yeah. We know.
I woke my stepdaughter up, fed her, got her dressed, and entertained her. Then I delivered her to her barely around father so he could feel like a dad today. I was a little annoyed until after I made her breakfast and she said happy Father’s Day. Melted my heart. Sorry you can’t be with your kid today dude. I’ll have one with you.
I feel you. Been caring for my bonus kiddo as mom 100% for over 5 years now, because bio mom accidentally checked herself out of the picture. Got a mother's day card this year. Feels good, not gonna lie. Happy Father's day guys, if she says you are a terrible father, she's saying it out of anger and to try to hurt ya.
The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. I have children, siblings, and parents that I share no blood with, but they are my family. Be good to people and life pays back dividends.
She knows, and as she grows up she will appreciate you even more. I don't talk to my bio dad because he doesn't act like a dad.
Dude that made me legit tear up. Kudos to you for being THE dad.
Sorry. I had to drive 500 miles to make it happen and I'll drive another 500 tomorrow to make it back to work, but it was worth it!
Just to be the man
Who would drive a 1000 miles!
You know who would walk a thousand miles? Now tell me if a familiar tune is playing in your head!
Back in my day, we had to walk... And it was snowing... Uphill... It was snowing uphill... You know how cold it has to be for it to snow uphill?
Sorry, doesn’t count unless you walk
climate change yall giddyup
It’s gonna be okay.
I'm one of those guys. Not on bad terms with my ex, but I don't ever get him on the actual day of holidays.
My wife and I are separated and our divorce doesn't finalize until next February. Well, she has a live in boyfriend of almost three months, and so she has just cut me out altogether for now.
Three months and he's already living there?? I'm not even sure I'd be comfortable having my son meet a boyfriend after 3 months, let alone move him in!
She met him on Tinder. Totally fine. /s Aside from the photos of guns on his FB and that years of drug use has rotted his teeth and made him look 10 years older than me when he's two years younger.
There's got to be some appeal there. Doesn't years of fixing up junked dirt bikes make a guy pretty handy?
I guess. But still, meh.
Keep meticulous notes on EVERYTHING in case you need to fight for your child. Good luck. Also, depending on where you live, there is a no cohabitation order you can have added to your custody agreement: no overnights of a person of the opposite sex unless you are legally married. If course, it would apply to you as well but totally worth it if he is a complete scumbag.
Just out of curiosity, why is it taking 8 months to finalize your divorce? Mine was done in a week. If it’s custody reasons, you haven’t done yourself any favors moving out of the house. Either way, man - chin up! It’s just a day.
Kids. They make you wait a year in this state to try and make things work.
I’m sorry, that must be incredibly frustrating for you. I couldn’t even imagine waiting for the dumb ass court system before knowing the fate of the future with my child. I’m not going to pretend to understand the basis of your divorce, but also fuck you to your wife for cutting you out of your child(ren)’s life in the interim. That’s going to do more damage to the child than it will do to you…
Sorry to contribute in a negative way but having a live in boyfriend doesnt seem like "trying to make things work" - I'd be curious to know how the court views her fast moves with TinderRomeo. If they're worriesd about the kids in the divorce, surely they might like to know about this nonsense. Goodluck. Eta: it goes both ways. Watch what you say, girl and on the internet, and consider NOT posting about your feelings/troubles from behind a tall beer on social media... again - good luck.
Family law is very different from the rest. My brother in law and sister in law's divorce took nearly a year because the judge decided they needed more time to make sure they wanted a divorce because it was too amicable. They had no kids. It made no sense.
A friend's divorce had been going on since 2018, with no end in sight. They've been in court for something like 18 months now, and the judge keeps allowing the other party to delay, delay, delay. It's sad, they'll spend more on lawyers than either of them will keep.
Mines been going on since 2016. Almost finalized last year, but my ex appealed the ruling. It's all a money game, the poor kids are just pawns. Fucking sad.
As the wife of a man who wasn't able to see his son for 4 years, then ended up with full custody of him - hang in there, things change, good will happen. My stepson is now 20 and is happy. His mother recently tried to contact him for his birthday and he just ignored her. He unfortunately had to learn at a young age just what she was like, however it makes him value his present life a lot more!
Create new holidays all of them were man made anyways 😉. Happy fathers day!
Same buddy. I have my days off tailored around my visitation days so I can't do any Sunday holidays. However I got to talk to her tonight for a little bit so that makes it better.
You do know you can modify your custody order to include holidays, no?
Write a letter to your son, and keep it. Give it to him in the future.
You mean something like an email?
yeah but physical letters just hit a little different. Took the time to write it out by hand. Idk something about is just more… real.
Props out to the OP and younger dads that are walking through this I have been down this path and am on the other side of it. While it is hard in this moment, it will get better. When it was all fresh for me someone encouraged me by saying live every day so you have no regrets when your head hits the pillow. That’s an easy saying but it can be tough to execute when you’re in the heat of it. But I promise you that if you do this regardless of of your ex and even your kids you will be better for it. I’m not saying I got it perfect because I didn’t. But I do have a very healthy relationship with all of my kids. Keep plugging away, you will get there.
I appreciate this more than I can put into words , I'm sitting here in rehab but I'll cheers ya with a Gatorade lol . I would give anything to have my 3 children but the ex wife and I unfortunately had miscarriages for all of them and not a day goes by that I don't think about the life I could've had with my family.
I'm sorry for your losses. Your babies may have never made it here but that doesn't mean you're not a dad. I know that people don't like to talk about miscarriages and that men especially, often feel like they can't talk about their grief. People focus on the woman because she's the one who physically went through it, but ultimately those were your babies too. I'm sure that losing them was as devastating for you as much as it was for your ex wife.
I do feel bad for the kids. My son doesn't get to see his 2 boys today, not because of his divorce but because he's a firefighter. Missing holidays is hard and celebrating them on another day is not quite the same.
Keep your head up gents around the world.. been there, done that and I have primary custody now.
Same here. It took a lot of work, and luck, and a few spectacularly bad decisions on Mom's end, but the boy's finally in a stable place with me. We just cut the yard and grilled together.
Sadly that is far too rare unless the mother absolutely isn't fit to care. Dad's get shafted.
I was absolutely relentless.. in court every single quarter, I showed up. I got my request for visitation denied 10 times but the 11th time I was granted 3 weeks, and I kept going back every quarter..
Friend of mine, currently living with me, is going through a divorce. Wife refused to let him see the kids, as she was going to a BBQ with the new boyfriend of 3 days. Absolutely awful. My heart breaks for all fathers unable to see their children.
Cheers brother, my ex is keeping mine from me to hurt me
And a cheers to you, 2001 Carson Daily
Picture of someone holding a beer. 🤷🏻♂️ Upvote pictures, not backstories.
It's been since Feb 16th, 2020 since I've seen or talked to my sons thanks to covid and messed up visitation rights. I miss them every moment of every day and this is a tough day. Thank you.
I saw on some comment about your soon to be ex having a live in BF already. Get your lawyer to put in a clause about no over night visits with significant others.
If the child support I pay to their shrew of mother wasn't so high, I'd send you several awards for this. And, thank you. I needed to see this today.
Cheers! I unfortunately fall into this category.
Thanks for this. My kids are visiting their mom for the summer, out of state. I miss them. Today sucked, but I appreciate you taking the time to post this up.
It sucks because not only are fathers suffering, but the kids do too. I hope you’re able to enjoy your day the best you can! Happy Father’s Day!
You're his dad 365.
Well fuck, I was holding it together until this post. Cheers, guys.
Since I can't say it to the one person I want to the most, hopefully you guys in this post can see it and celebrate: Happy Father's Day, whether the child is physically here or not. You would have been the absolute best father ever given the chance.
Cheers to all the miserable bastards out there it will get better or it won't. Fuck it !
Eh my real dad doesn’t deserve to see anyone
Cheers to the men who made bad decisions and can't live with their children.
Happy Father’s Day!! I hope you enjoy your day!!
Thanks !! This really made me feel better about it. I’ve been having a hard time this weekend not being able to see my little ones
My (ex) girlfriend has a 3 year old son that I've helped raised for over 2 years, and love like hes my own. She left me last week. &#x200B; Edit: forgot to put ex.
Single father here. I DO have full custody of my two girls. But let me tell you this. Be strong. Don't take shit for granted. And don't give up your rights
I have been there. Its really shitty. I had both of my kids today and i thought back to the time i didn't. Stay strong and if you need someone to talk to or vent at dm me. Seriously. Hope all the best for you.
… and the kids who don’t get to see their dads.
But JJ Abrams is still alive?
Yeah. I'm a reboot.
Bought my grand parents house a year and a half ago off my aunt. My cousin made a similar post today. Last week a letter from child support came here and per my cousin, it’s funny since he hasn’t lived her in 5 years 🤷♂️
Man, that breaks my heart - for you and your kiddo. I hope like everything that it gets better for you. Kids should never be pawns.
Thank you…you’re not alone.
I've lost 2 kids in the past 4 years. I needed this today. also, cheers to all the dads dealing with grief today #IKnowThatFeel
I didn't get to see my boy today but I took along some flowers and sat with him and had a chat. It might have been one sided to anyone else watching but I still hear his voice replying, his laugh. I try to keep him alive in my mind, hope you can do the same.
Thanks. I hope everyone is okay. I haven’t seen my kids since 2011. It’s crushing, but I still have to live.
Didn't even get a shitty card or even a text. But you can bet ex's dad did. Fuck her. 😭🏴
Thanks. Same to you!
I'll drink to that.
Ty man. I miss my 3 year old hard today😢, can’t wait to throw her the biggest bday party Sunday 🥰
Thank you for this. I have seen 5 of my kids today. But my oldest is in prison for the next 3 years. I know we were both thinking of each other
I'm worth you today my dudes, I did get to see my 3 before I took them back to their moms (I get them every weekend and any day I'm off), decided to tell my work place to f off and quite to look for one that isn't going to work me 15 plus hours a day. Money is great, but damn. Cheers lads. Be strong, be good, be the best you can be!
I got a card today that said “Happy Mother’s Day”. Oh well, kids are allowed to get confused right?
That's shitty, although ultimately it's just a day. The 365 is what matters.
If you can’t see your kids it’s because the courts have said no, you live in different states, or you didn’t go to court to establish visitation. In this day and age there is no excuse
I had my parenting plan sent back for revisions because my ex and I didn’t think to explicitly say that she got Mother’s Day and I got Father’s Day. It’s not a requirement, but even the good ol’ boy courts where I live will encourage it. That said, it needs to be much, much harder to move out of state with a child.
This made me panic and think that Today was fathers day and I'd forgotten to get my dad something. EDIT: Well turns out it is father's day, just not in Australia! Temporary heart attack x2
And that’s the bear??
Thank you 😊!
Cheers man 🍺
I humbly volunteer as surrogate son for whoever wants to let me live on their couch.
my dad not seeing me today is my gift to him tbh
I'm one of the fortunate ones where the court or DCF found me to be the better parent, but it happens so rarely that it's sad. Mothers are not necessarily the better parent, and we as dads have to fight that much harder for not just custodial rights, but parenting rights in general.
Thanks man! I really kind of needed this random act of kindness. I have been having an increasingly difficult time with father's day since last speaking with my son a few years ago. I feel so gd low, so regretful that I am on this path I have chosen. He will be 18 at the end of next month, and I just want him to know how much I love and miss him. I never meant to hurt him, I was trying my best.
The post I needed today, thank you 🥂
I didn't see my dad today and that's because I don't care about it anymore he can go to hell.
My Dad died young, but I know he’s be here with me if he’d have the chance.
Hang in there, bud
Cheers to the men who are hard working dads and don’t get that credit!
Cheers to you, brother.
My dad went out for cigarettes and never came back
Why not just refuse to move out until the divorce is finalized, and custody is agreed on?
Threats, violence, baseless ex parte restraining orders, minimizing emotional harm to children and self, avoiding being temper baited, false alegations of DV, rape, and incest, courts dragging their feet for three years, etc. This is just my personal experience.
It kills me everyday not specially today
Sounds like you need a better custody lawyer.
Cheers to all the guys who married hot chicks with great jobs that stick together through all the bullshit (which is close to zero)
Read the room
Sperm donors feel pain too...
My daughter just let slip that her incubator is trying to take her to Mexico for vacation. Last year when she took her on vacation she let her slip down a hill she should never have been and got a compound fracture, and refused to tell me about it until a week past my custody time. Guess who had to fly to the hospital to pay for it and "come get her if you want your parenting time". Good news is... if she does manage to get a passport it will be completely fraudulent and parental kidnapping out of the country. I won't have to worry about the incubator much anymore afterwards.
When you refer to the parent of your child as if they’re not human, you’re not doing you child any favours.
As long as he's not doing it in front of the child, it's fine. It's possible to be angry with an ex without letting that bleed into the child's relationship (especially if the ex is toxic enough that the child will figure it out on her own). Alternatively, which word would you prefer? B word? C word? S word?
I would prefer the persons name. Or “my child’s mother”. Edit; and if you’re the kind of person who refers to the child’s mother as if they’re not human, I doubt you’re doing a great job of hiding your hate in front of the child.
Be thankful you've never had such a terrible ex. I haven't either, but I can sympathize.
I have a terrible ex, thank you. A lot of assumptions. First assumption being that OP simply has to either be calling their ex by "an incubator" or as a straight up curse. The second assumption being that if other adults call their ex by their name they must never have had a bad one. What a low bar, you live with.
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